Be Yourself- only you can be the at being you


Be Yourself

“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”

Ephesians 2:10

To be yourself in a world that often expects you to be something that you aren’t can be truly challenging.

Last year, Complete Woman hosted their first Be Yourself Conference, coming together as women to appreciate, celebrate and empower one another to be the women that God has destined us to be.

We were able to learn what it means to take pride in who we are, what we are accomplishing individually and together and what we are yet to achieve. It gave us the chance to look good and feel proud, not for anyone but ourselves.

From hair, make-up and beauty stalls, to learning how to keep healthy, we were empowered to appreciate where we have come from, who we are now and, more than anything, begin to love who we are about to come.

1. Don’t be afraid to look in the mirror and appreciate who you are

What I have come to discover, is that we are faced with the daily battle of living up to a certain idea or perception, generally created by ourselves, or in some cases, by someone else. When it is coupled with feelings of inadequacy and lack of belief in our true self, the battles we are always trying to overcome sometimes feel like battles that cannot be won or achieved, yet did the Lord not say that we are fearfully and wonderfully made?

Ephesians 2:10 says: “We are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” So why do we find it so difficult sometimes to believe that we are God’s handiwork and that he created us to do great works. 

Our true selves tend to come out when we let go of all of the stories, labels, and judgments that we have placed upon ourselves. It is who we naturally are when we look in the mirror without the masks and pretentiousness.

2. Learn to discover who you are on your own

There are seasons that you will go through in life that will cause you to question things about yourself and where you are headed. Sometimes there will be more questions than answers and there will be those occasions where the possibility of clarity or closure seem so far-fetched an idea that inner peace will seem like an impossibility. Nonetheless, in the midst of such seasons you will always have the wonderful opportunity to be alone and truly rediscover who you are and what your purpose is in a given season. It is a time to draw closer to God and remember things about yourself that you have forgotten or neglected.

It is in the silence of your own space that you have the chance to grow into the person you have been called to be. It is in this place where you learn how to forgive yourself and heal from situations that have caused you the greatest amount of pain, when you truly reflect on what it means to be an individual pre-destined to be content in the Lord. It is also a place where you discover how to empower yourself and others, and what the freedom of that empowerment really means.

3. Don’t be afraid to reflect often

Life has a way of taking you back and allowing you to reflect and gain perspective that was once lost. It has a way of restoring lost hope, faith and love. It has a way of allowing you to reason with yourself about situations, whether they were your fault or not. It has a way of reminding you that there is no one who is better qualified to be you than yourself.

“It is in the silence of your own space that you have the opportunity to grow into the person you have been called to be.”

It is an existential truth that people who know who they are radiate a confidence that the world is able to see. They are the people who are capable of exploring the deepest essence of their capabilities without depending on the approval of other people to exist or breathe.

When you let go of the old ways of thinking, follow your inner bliss, and do what you love, you begin to align with happiness and peace – you begin to learn to craft your own sense of individuality, style and grace.

When all is said and done, do not be afraid to be yourself because once you know who you are and whose you are, everything else will fall into place.